I've been visiting grandma at the hospital. She was diagnosed with colon cancer stage 4. She's now given morphine to lessen her pain. She doesn't get to eat food that we eat, she is given liquid food that is given through a tube connected to her body. Her lips are chapped and cracked. Her face pale and weary from the pain. How can someone you know, that brought up 9 children, have 25+ grandchildren, is all smiles during celebrations, always making sure everyone is in good health, always making small talk eventhough you knows she's tired, be in this condition? Sometimes you wonder. Cancer is an evil thing. It spreads like nobody's business. It conquers your body like you don't care. It saddens me to see grandma in this condition. That's why, mother always tries to give her best to grandma everytime. Eventhough mother sometimes does not spend time with us, she apologizes and tells us that she's with grandma. My aunties and uncles are all making extra effort now to make grandma happy.
That brings me to another topic. I know and understand that tiffs among families and siblings are normal. Hey, I even think it's healthy to disagree once in a while. But if the arguments have been going on for a long time and the reasons are downright dumb, we should jolly well take a step back and look at the big picture. And by we, I mean they. I'm not siding any parties. But isn't it obvious? Being there for someone don't only mean that you visit when that person is sick or unwell. Or give money but you talk about others who don't. Being there for someone means to be there everytime that person needs companion, accompany her to check ups, spend time at her favourite places, visit her whenever you can, not leaving her alone when she is unwell.
I mean, isn't common sense if you are staying with an elderly and let's say she's unwell. If you want to go overseas for whatever reason, what will you do first? Just go and hope for the best? Just go and don't bother whether there is enough rice and food in the house? I don't know about some people but I think the morally right thing to do is to inform someone of your plans and ensure that the elderly person is being taken care of. I mean, how can you be at peace after you leave an elderly alone just like that? So let's not go around telling people that they are incompetent and absent during times of need. Let's make full use of our mirrors at home or in our pretty little purses and take a good look at ourselves.
Well, I don't think whatever I just expressed was gossiping. Anyway, that's my personal take but i think any normal person would agree with me. I'm not pinpointing or talking about anybody in particular. Nobody's perfect but everybody can try. Hey, I've been working with children of different ages for almost 4 years now and it's safe to say that sometimes, adults are worst then children. Children apologize and reconcile. Adults gossip and hate each other for life. Hey, I'm not excused from the 'adults are worst' notion, my flaws are countless.However, in this context, I'm just comparing the dispositions I see in children that are absent most of the time in adults, myself included.
Enough blabbering. What's important, we know and do what's best for ourselves and the people around us. My best might not be your best. So hey, who am I to argue or provide philosophical advice? Life is so much more than finding faults, sizing people up or thinking we are right. I admire those who have been sacrificing their time and effort for grandma. Please pray for her and hopefully she can be out of hospital in no titme. She deserves that much. <3
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